It’s easy to attract a guy physically: put on a sexy dress, push your chest out, walk with your hips swaying sexy, purse your lips seductively, brush your hair back and bat your long eyelashes shyly, and that’s it. what you need to conquer it. But that’s only if you want him to stay one night. The reality is that most women want something deeper than a physical connection. It’s natural for men to go for the superficial, but getting them to appreciate what’s on the inside is a real challenge. Here are some ways you can make your boyfriend emotionally attracted to you and how you can keep it that way.

Sweet things won’t work on men.

As a woman, you are romantically stimulated by sugar-coated professions of love and affection. For men, these are simply words stolen from a rom-com that they haven’t seen and have no plans to ever see. If you plan to give him a long speech about how much you enjoy spending time with him and how you wish you were with him forever, you won’t arouse any emotion in him. Instead, minimize the use of overly sweet words. It’s a language you can teach a guy to speak, but not by speaking it yourself.

Play your game well.

Your miniskirts will physically hook a guy, but your sweaty t-shirts from playing an active game of ping-pong with him will really steal his heart. As? Guys feel an emotional bond with their male friends because of their common ground. There is so much connection that can happen during a game of ping-pong (or any other sport or game you enjoy). A guy sees your playful side and will immediately see beyond your physical attributes. When you participate in a game or sport with a guy, you bring out the competitive side of him, which you can easily tame with your charm. You can also make a guy feel needed by asking him to show you how it’s done.

Never underestimate the power of humor and fun.

A girl can be classy and totally fun at the same time. There is nothing cuter than a girl who can make a guy laugh naturally and without trying too hard. When people laugh, their levels of serotonin (the happiness hormone) skyrocket. Higher serotonin levels make people more loving and romantic. Add a lighter side to the relationship, and your boyfriend will be more into you before you know it.

Turn those small actions into big ones.

As couples walk side by side, notice how, almost without realizing it, the hand of one reaches out to meet the other. These small actions may seem pointless, but this means a great emotional connection between you and your partner. It means that their physical bonds are no longer limited to romping in the bedroom, now they are comfortable letting the world know that they are a couple.

He secretly loves surprises, even when he says no.

How to knock a guy down when he least expects it? surprise him. Buy him a turn from his favorite store, but get him that CD he’s been meaning to buy for himself. Make him a 3-course dinner and slip him an “whatever you want for dessert” coupon. Any pleasant surprise, as long as it’s not too dramatic, too romantic, and too heavy, will do the trick.

Listen to what he tells you about his mother (or ex).

Big boys are attached to their mothers. In fact, when you imagine an ideal woman, she would have many characteristics that her mom actually has. For example, your guy casually tells you during a conversation, “My mom makes the best strawberry cheesecake.” He is “subtly” telling you that she wishes you could bake him some too. It’s the same with exes. Although it’s a mutual rule not to talk about exes, conversations about them can’t always be avoided. “She always made me fresh juice in the morning.” While you’d hate the idea of ​​becoming like her ex, you already have an idea that she used to do something he enjoyed. So instead of making him fresh juice, make him a big breakfast too.

Boost your morale, but do it in moderation.

Finally, be generous with praise as it builds a guy’s self-esteem. If you are successful in doing so, you will be able to establish a significant emotional attraction to him. However, do it in moderation or else it may sound too condescending.