Most of the bread we go through is due to the choices we make. If a person decided to sell drugs, regardless of why he started selling drugs, he will face the consequences of selling drugs (lock up, kill, shoot, stab, etc.). Life is about making decisions and choices. However, if you make the wrong decision, the consequence of that decision will affect you negatively, causing you pain.
the valley of decisions
When God created man, there was one thing over which he had no control: our Will. Because God has no control over our will (unless we turn it over to Him), we have the freedom to do what we want, when we want. However, when things don’t go as planned, we blame God for letting us through the pain.
Most of the pain we go through comes from some of the decisions we make. Also, when that happens, we blame God for the pain that decision brought. We complain, drink and scold God for not helping us in our difficulties. However, we forget to realize that God had nothing to do with certain decisions we made.
It only takes one right or wrong decision to change our lives. Sometimes, we make these decisions based on our feelings and emotions, a common mistake that countless people make.
As I watch our nation and the world as the rate of babies having babies soars, it saddens me because every young man or woman knew that becoming pregnant could be one of the consequences of their actions. But still, they want to explore the sexual world only to end up hurt, broken and confused.
The decisions you make today will determine the person you will become in the future. Making bad and unhealthy decisions will lead to pain, frustration, bitterness, and hatred. However, doing good and healthy will lead you to a future of hope, joy, peace and prosperity.
We all make decisions on a daily basis, whether it’s to go to the grocery store, to the park, or to hang out with family and friends. There are two types of decisions that each of us must make on a daily basis and for the rest of our lives: (1) major decisions and (2) minor decisions.
Important decisions
An important decision has the power to negatively or positively change your future. This is why it is very important not to make any major decisions based on your feelings or emotions because those feelings will be based on the type of day you are having. The decision you make when you have a good day will be slightly different from the one you make when you have a horrible day. Instead, make decisions based on principle, rather than your feelings. What are the principles and how do you make a decision based on them?
I define principle as having a healthy sense of moral conscience to do things that, regardless of the end result or consequence, you are at peace with God and with yourself. There are two types of principles: innate and learned.
Innate principles are those with which we are born. It is encrypted in the heart and soul of every human being because it is given by God. It’s not based on a person’s hair color, the type of music they like, or who their parents are. This can also be called the consciousness of him.
Our conscience is messages encrypted by God that arise to help us examine our decisions. In other words, when a person is trying to download some information over the Internet, depending on the content or the source of the file, his computer will give him a warning. It usually asks you something like this; “do you want to open or save the file?” and then, based on his response, it will say: “the file could be a potential hazard to your computer because the source is unknown.”
The point I want to convey to you is this: your innate principles will not feel comfortable when you make unhealthy decisions. That is the main reason why many people regret certain decisions they made in the past. It is because even though they may have been satisfied at the time, when they look back, they realize that their conscience did not agree with the decision.
Learned principles are good or bad principles taught by your family, friends, and society. It is very influenced by your upbringing. The principles learned can be universal; Which means, whether you grew up in Timbuktu or Manhattan, there are certain principles that we’ve all learned. And some of them are; respect your elders, get a good education, get a job, etc.
If a person who grew up in a dysfunctional family (a family that knows they have problems but does nothing to fix them) makes their decisions based on what they saw or learned from other family members, that decision will usually have negative consequences. There are always some exceptions.
Someone who comes from a functional family (a family that knows they have a problem and works to solve it) will generally make healthier choices because they have seen the results of making positive choices.
A person will always make healthy decisions if they make decisions based on principles. When a person makes an important decision based on principle, he should ask himself certain questions to be sure of his decisions:
- Does God agree with my decision?
- Is my decision helping me?
- Am I hurting someone?
- How will this affect my future?
- Am I emotionally stable?
minor decisions
Every important decision starts from a minor one; Many people underestimate the vitality of minor decisions. It is because of minor decisions that we find ourselves in situations that we did not plan for. Every decision you make, whether major or minor, will affect your future and that of those around you.
Becoming a successful person at anything always starts with the minor decisions you make. Those decisions will set the tone for other decisions. Small decisions can cause great confusion or joy. Minor decisions can bring positive results or a lifetime of regret and remorse. The differences between major and minor decision is this;
Important decisions are important because of increased responsibility. Minor decisions are minor because you have less responsibility. You usually have one opportunity to make major decisions, while you have multiple opportunities to make minor decisions.
Major decisions will affect your future, while minor decisions will affect your day. You will regret important decisions with a negative result, more than you will regret minor positive decisions. When you include God in every decision you make in your life, big or small, He will never lead you astray.