I’m here to help you get your wife or lover to give you what you want: serious male chastity.

And I actually take it very seriously, because I know, and you will find out for yourself, just how fabulous male chastity is. But getting to that point means letting go of probably everything you’ve ever heard, thought, or believed about it.

That focus on realism and critical thinking is at the core of what I do in my articles and blog, and in my own life with John.

So one big mistake is simply this: male chastity is a surefire way to fix any relationship, a surefire strategy for turning your loved one into the passionate, lustful, and utterly devoted creature he once was. It’s a common myth that you’ll see perpetuated on forums and blogs, as well as by people trying to sell you an expensive chastity device.

And it is a legend.

Because male chastity is not a panacea and can actually do more harm than good.

Let’s back up a bit. In most cases, it is the man who leads the lifestyle of male chastity; she stumbles across it somehow, usually because she’s always been turned on by the idea of ​​controlling or even denying his climax, and she thinks it would be fun to try. .

So, then he plucks up the courage to talk to his wife or girlfriend and she goes in search of information; or you, perhaps, point it in the right direction. In my experience, it’s almost never the other way around.

Despite what the forum and blog posts say, women almost never turn to their men and say “I want to lock you up for X, Y and Z.”

It happens, I’m sure, but not often (so if it has happened to you, then I hope you realize how lucky you are).

And the reason why man does this?

Well, yes, it’s true that he has this fantasy… but it goes further, and the more he learns and thinks about male chastity, the more true it becomes. Because he loves his partner too…and, like him, you want to recapture the passion and lust of how it used to be when you were first together.

Actually, it is much more than this. The desire for male chastity burns hot and bright as you’ll see when I share some personal stories about John and I, but more on that in future articles.

Anyway, in loving but stagnant relationships, I would say yes, male chastity is definitely worth a try, because, and here’s the important thing, your underlying relationship is strong and solid. This is assuming that you or your partner do not have strong moral, ethical, religious or personal reasons for not even considering it (unfortunately, that happens too).

You see, male chastity doesn’t replace parts of your relationship: it enhances the whole and helps you make it grow. And it’s true, one of the benefits is that it increases and improves your love life.

No doubt about that.

But what it won’t do is resurrect something that’s already dead.

Male chastity is so powerful because, primarily, it is about increasing and enhancing the physical and emotional intimacy you experience with each other.

This is why men become more caring and caring, not because everyone wants to be a “slave” or “sissy” (some do, most don’t… and most women certainly don’t find that). attractive in a man). They become more attentive because you share more intimacy… and close and loving people like to do nice things for each other.

Clearly, if there is no intimacy between you now because you don’t want or like it, then trying to “force” her with male chastity is going to be a disaster for both of you. Because if your relationship is bad, and you can’t stand to look at each other, or her wife’s skin crawls when you touch her… chances are male chastity will just make things worse for you. both.

If this is what your relationship is like, and you really need to ask yourself some tough questions and answer them with brutal honesty, you really need to start fixing your relationship before anything else.

And if it can’t be fixed (and that’s always possible, and in the long run, if that’s true, the sooner you find out, the better), then you might want to think about ending it.

Strong words, I know.

But true, for all that.