They left you, right? Hey, it’s all part of the dating game. Even the best of us get knocked off our horse a few times… what really matters is how fast you get back on.
Losing a girl you’re still in love with is like getting punched in the soul. You hurt, you cry, you do all kinds of desperate things… all in the name of love. What you’re really doing here, though, is shooting yourself in the foot, because when is it about getting your girlfriend back? it’s just as easy as you make it.
Here are 7 important secrets that will help get you and your ex girlfriend back together. Why are they secret? Because if you examine these behaviors and actions, you will find that they are the exactly the opposite than most people do after a break up. Translation: very few people know how to walk the right path.
Accept and agree to the breakup
Without a doubt, your first step is always the same: agree with your ex’s decision to break up with you. Why agree? Two reasons, actually. First of all, your ex girlfriend is not going to be discouraged from breaking up with you right now, no matter what you say or do. Second, because it is the the last thing your girlfriend expects you to do.
By agreeing with her decision to end things, you’re essentially breaking up with her, too. You are rejecting your girlfriend at the same time that she is rejecting you; this will confuse her at first and then annoy her.
“Why is she unhappy? How come she’s not even trying to fight to keep us going?” -As these thoughts rumble through your girlfriend’s head, she will immediately start questioning herself about all the different things. Very simple, you have just done something extremely important: you planted the seeds of doubt In his mind.
Walk away like you don’t care
After you’re dumped, it’s time to smile and walk away. Don’t chase, beg, call, stalk, text, email, or tearfully plead with your girlfriend to take you back…those things will always KILL your chances of winning her over. Instead, the best thing to do is walk away as if the breakup doesn’t bother you one bit.
Your ex will not only be taken aback by your lack of concern for what just happened, but will also respect you for not falling apart. How could your girl respect you after seeing you cry and begging her not to break up with you? The answer, of course, is that she can’t.
Completely disappear from your ex’s radar
Not calling or contacting your ex girlfriend is one thing… completely disappearing from her life is another. It is vital that you stay away from everything that has to do with your ex-girlfriend, in order to make her start missing you again.
Going out of sight includes not having Facebook, MySpace, hanging out with shared friends, or going to common places where you know your ex might be. Your girlfriend must turn around to see where you are and find absolutely nothing there. This will help her imagine the worst: that you have moved on with your life without her.
Working ON yourself… FOR yourself
You will read a lot of breakup advice that tells you to work out, get muscular, look good, and completely surprise your ex girlfriend the next time she sees you. And while this is good advice, it’s just as important that you do these things for the right reasons.
Losing weight, getting a tan, buying new clothes… all these things are external. They are great confidence boosters and will definitely help get your ex girlfriend’s attention in very positive ways when it’s time to see her again. By all means, do them.
At the same time, however, you need to do these things to you, and not just for the sake of getting your girlfriend back. By maintaining a positive frame of mind and working towards these goals, you are getting mentally stronger in a very good way. The confidence, security, motivation and energy provided here will go a long way in building charisma, another great thing to have while trying to get your ex back together.
Refuse contact and do not extend the break
Sometimes a girl will call you after the break up to keep fighting with you. She’s not interested in getting back together, but she’ll still be interested in blame. This is not what you want, so you should avoid it.
By not taking your ex’s calls, emails, or texts, you continue that mysterious silence that will drive her so crazy. Right now, your ex wants to know that you’re home alone, you miss her, and you’re desperately waiting by the phone. By NOT being there when the phone rings, you are actually undermining your ex girlfriend’s resolve.
Also, avoiding all contact? You are also avoiding the continuation of any fights or disputes that the two of you may have gotten into during the breakup. Your silence says a lot… your level of maturity is high… the respect your ex has for you skyrockets and getting her back becomes much easier.
Go out and have the time of your life
What is the best way to make your ex girlfriend jealous? Living your life to the fullest… without her in her.
The sooner you can get back out there, the better off you’ll be. Get some friends, see a couple of relatives… you can even start dating another girl if she feels like it. All of these actions let your ex know that you’re not sitting around waiting for her like a lost puppy. They also send another message: life goes on without you.
When your ex girlfriend sees you having a good time without her, she will be jealous. They were moments when you used to share, and she imagined herself as a big part of your happiness. Now that she sees that you can be happy without her? She will wonder if maybe you were a big part of his happiness. Maybe she needs you more than you need her… and this will lead, once again, to your ex questioning the decision to end her relationship.
Knowing exactly when to reconnect with your ex girlfriend
So… how long should you wait before calling your ex girlfriend? Big question. But even better than that, what if there was a way to make me call you?
Reopening the lines of communication is one of the last steps needed to win your ex back. You need to do it at exactly the right time and with the right opening moves. Making a misstep at this point could send you right back to the start, so you have to be very careful.
For this reason, you must have a step by step plan. You can’t reverse your breakup simply by picking up the phone and letting the chips fall where they may: you’ll look and sound pretty silly unless you know exactly what you’re doing.